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December 2, 2008 12:00 PM

Why the World Needs You to Shine Now (and Why You Aren't Meant to Do It Alone)

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Here's the deal.

For a good part of November I made myself dizzy trying to figure out what I have to offer in today's economy.

I niched, I visioned, I did EFT and The Work.

And while I reached a place of peace about my personal economic situation, I choked when it came to promoting my work. So much so that I didn't even do a newsletter last week.

Granted, it was Thanksgiving week here in the USA. And Maggie's daughter, Sharon, had a brain tumor removed on November 21, which was just a wee bit distracting. But still. I would have ordinarily sent at least a quick note.

By the way, Sharon is doing spectacularly. But I digress.

The Funny Thing Is...

Freezing up like that is ironic because, as Maggie and my Brain Trust buddies keep reminding me, Accidental Entrepreneurs need inspiration, clarity, and support now more than ever.

So once again I find myself face to face with the shadow side of my life purpose: fear that I have nothing to offer. And once again I am reminded that my work is to teach what I need to learn.


Light and Shadow
When you are in the shadow of your life purpose, things come to a halt until you turn on the light.

The first step is to stop lurking in the shadows, feeling your way around, and open your eyes to the fear. Warning: this is embarrassing! We've been so schooled in the culture of mental manipulation that it can take a long time to simply admit the truth.

Step two is uncovering the purpose on the flip side of that fear. This deep purpose is humble, not grandiose. It stems from a conviction about how you are meant to be in the world.

This should also be embarrassing, because your deep purpose is always something you haven't attained, something that will take a lifetime to fulfill.

For me, that purpose is to shine.


Say What?
What kind of purpose is that?

A deep one. A true one. One that brings tears to my eyes and a quiver to my tummy.

And when I connect with this deep purpose, I feel huge compassion for the small self that is terrified that she doesn't have anything to offer. I mean, what could be more natural and more silly?

Natural because big impossible aspirations are threatening to the small self, the ego-bound one that craves approval and is terrified of failure.

Silly because the small self is a servant of purpose, not an orchestrator. And even as a servant, it is not meant to act alone.

And that, folks, is the lesson I'm here to learn one more time.


It Takes a Village
You've probably seen the Marianne Williamson quote that begins:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us."

Well, I propose a corollary.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are without resources. Our deepest fear is that we are infinitely and completely supported. It is the wealth of opportunity, not the lack of resources, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to benefit from the work and support of others?

"Actually, who are you to do it alone? You are a child of God. Pretending to be an only child or an orphan does not serve the world.

"There is nothing enlightened about doing it all yourself so that other people won't envy or resent you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And to shine in that way requires that we open our minds and hearts to infinite Love, Love that is made manifest in the kindness of strangers, the support of friends, and the brilliance of those who have gone before us.

"It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And as we allow others to help our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same."

Bringing It Home
Before I close for today, I want to share some practical steps for reconnecting with purpose and getting unstuck.

1. Tell someone. Don't keep your fears and doubts to yourself. Share them with people who support your work. Ask them not just for encouragement, but for specific examples of what your work does and for whom.

2. Listen critically. Pay attention to what you hear. Take notes. Look for evidence in support of what you are hearing.

3. Reconnect with purpose. Not the mission statement kind of purpose, but the being kind of purpose. Most recently, I turned to a process in The Power of Story by Jim Loehr.

4. Find an object that reflects your purpose in action. For me, it's the photo illustrating this article. I want that spirit to animate my work, and keeping the photo near my desk reminds me to reconnect.

(If you are reading the text-only version of this issue, you can see the photo at http://www.authenticpromotion.com/ezine/mollybeach.jpg )

5. When self-doubt creeps up, call a friend or colleague who has agreed to remind you that what you are up to is the work of being who you are. Repeat as often as necessary.





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Thanks, Molly! This was my favorite article of yours in a long time!

David

Posted by: David Eastman at December 2, 2008 1:16 PM

I'm so glad to be remembering my purpose today. I, too, am here "to teach what I am learning and what I most need to know." One interesting thing (to me, anyway) is that I'm now working on these two things: "to go where I'm invited" and "to work with the willing." You've taught me, among many other things, to trust that there are more than enough people who want to work together, learn together, and grow in sharing what works.

People are eager to pay me to share what's been helping me overcome obstacles as a writer, book coach, single woman, solopreneur, scholar/learner and life direction counselor. It's all miracle grow on mulch! -- fodder for an audacious garden to share with others who ALSO want to contribute to the whole.

Blessings to you and your readers, Molly!

Jenn

Hey readers, Need help making a difficult decision?

Posted by: Jennifer Manlowe at December 2, 2008 2:40 PM

Greetings Molly-
Your light comes at exactly the right time. I've been visualizing, doing, being, having and yet, worrying about the what ifs... As a matter of fact, the big, ugly what ifs are getting very close and yet, somehow, when I read your words, listen to Abraham, read my daily Thought From The Universe (aka Mike Dooley) and just take a few minutes for myself, to remember who I am and why I do what I do (artist/handbag designer/animal lover/mother/sister/daughter/friend/idealist) the light exposes them and lessens their power. The more light that I allow, the smaller and smaller they become. Just tonight I realized that whatever the outcome will be of any experience, I am ready to accept it. I will always have my ability to create art, to network, to evolve and that it is ok to ask for advice, and help from others. Perhaps this is my latest breakthrough!

Posted by: Debra Cortese at December 2, 2008 5:49 PM

Molly,
I've been receiving your newsletters for a few years now and the one I received today stopped me in my tracks. WOW! I have been floundering, not sure of what my purpose is, what I have to offer if anything, etc. I read the right things, have all the info I should have to make a difference in my choices and what I do but... Then something happened recently, I took a step back and realized I wasn't even breathing fully, deeply, any longer. If I wasn't breathing fully, then how could I live fully. I was choking on life. As I breathed slowly and attentively, things starting showing up - I listened to a podcast I saved awhile ago but never gotten gotten around to with Bryon Katie, I got your newsletter and saw the reference to the Shine It On package and clicked on the links on your newsletter and blog. Wow again! As you said, we aren't meant to do it alone. And when not frozen, not choking, and instead receptive, all we have to do is look, reach out, click, whatever and some of the info, answers, support systems just start to show up. Thank you for the work you are doing and I'll watch for the info on Shine It On. You ask what you can do in this economy - keep doing what you are doing in your newsletter and the mini workshops (I saw the one last month or so but thought it wasn't tailored to me, I just wasn't ready)etc. They help, more than you can imagine! Many blessings to you!

Posted by: Deena at December 3, 2008 3:42 PM

Shine on, dear Molly Gordon!

Posted by: Michael Ososki at December 3, 2008 7:33 PM

Thanks Molly for this enlightening post. I printed your 5 practical steps, and I will be implementing them.

Posted by: Grandpa Shayne at December 3, 2008 8:15 PM

Juicy and delicious! Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being.

Posted by: Cathy Elaine at December 4, 2008 1:50 PM

Thank you Molly - this was a wonderful post and something I really needed to read today! I've been reflecting on it a lot myself and you know, the funny thing I realized is that for most of my adult life I've felt pangs of fear about the future - ironically many of them had to do with every time I saw a Home Depot strip mall go up - many of them within miles of one another - I thought about the loss of the beautiful simplicity of a hardware store with its marvelous inefficiency, the smell of the wood floor, and the shelves and stacks. Now, I find myself 'fearing' losing so many of these strip malls - the main point is - for this particular downturn I am choosing to focus internally to realize that my true, pure self has everything I ever need. That all the world is unfolding and if I have true faith, my job is to see the good in all things and realize that not only can't I control all things - there is no need to if I allow my 'True' self to experience every turn specifically as it is designed to enrich my soul. It looks like you have a lot of great links to help with that pursuit. Thank you.

Posted by: Rob at December 4, 2008 2:07 PM

What a heart-voice you are. This very day you began to follow me on Twitter, and as I came to see your profile, I found this newsletter. I am now new subscriber to your newsletter. This is a magnificent piece of work that I will be sharing and passing along to my friends. Thank you for hunting me down!

Posted by: Holly at December 4, 2008 2:35 PM

Molly,

Over the course of my often tumultuous pursuit of being and becoming a "serious" photographer, I received a lot of bolstering and encouragement from friends, who simply refused to let me consider the notion of giving up whenever I got down in the dumps about "making it". They would tell me that I owed it to them and to the world out there, to keep going. I'd hear of how they were continually inspired and uplifted by my work, and therefore why it was my duty, rather than my choice, to keep the offerings coming.

This encouragement certainly helped me ride out the rough times, but it also gave me some great insight as to what value I was providing to others. This in turn is helping me to identify my niche.

Even as early as a year ago, I wouldn't have been talking about things like identifying a niche. But your book and ongoing weekly articles have been such an incredible resource and help, as far as getting me to think beyond my art, and toward my business as an artist.

So in response to this week's article, and to your doubts about having something to offer, I can say with conviction that your work has been of great help, importance, and value to me. And I'm sure that sentiment is shared by countless others.

So in similar fashion of how my friends encourage me, I offer my thanks, my gratitude here.

And ask that you please keep it coming.

Posted by: Chris Klaming at December 4, 2008 11:14 PM

You are all my teachers.

This article was challenging to write. I know so well the ways in which I fall short. It is easy to become preoccupied with that rather than to return to the task of being who I am, regardless of how I grade myself from day to day.

As Julia Cameron says, let's be responsible for the quantity of our work and let G.O.D. (good orderly direction, if the notion of a Higher Power doesn't work) take care of the quality.

Namaste'.

Posted by: Molly at December 5, 2008 1:13 PM

Dear Molly, this was an incredibly uplifting and inspiring article to read. Thank you!

Posted by: Jessica Reagan Salzman at December 5, 2008 1:24 PM

Ahhh yes...you do blog! and beautifully at that!

I will be back to read more fully.
Susan

Posted by: organicsyes at December 12, 2008 2:22 PM

Susan, Thanks for stopping by!

Your New Twitter Pal

Posted by: Molly Gordon at December 17, 2008 6:40 PM

I am so happy to have found you again Molly...this time on twitter ( @starlightlife ). You , years ago helped me ,through your audio download"find" my self and get my self out to work with the willing!
Be well and let me know if I can ever be of service.
Aloha~ Gina

Posted by: Gina at December 19, 2008 11:09 PM

Molly, this is awesome! Thanks so much for sharing it. I love it all, but the Marianne Williamson corollary completely rocks.

Posted by: Adam Kayce at December 31, 2008 6:50 AM

Molly,

My husband John and I were just reading your post. John's not home right now, because he is out buying "The Power Of Story." It had him tearing up when I was reading the online chapter to him about an hour ago. Shhh, don't tell, LOL, he wouldn't like me to tell everyone he was tearing up, LOL. You know how men are. :) Anyway, he's been looking for a book like this for a long time, so thanks for listing it. You never know that the one thing that you do, may be the thing that really can help someone and dramatically change their life for the better. So I'm glad you took the time and were bold and shared. I, by the way, am stealing it from him when he's done. :)

Oh, and I love that you were inspired to find an object. Wow, what an idea! The photo of Little Molly is precious!

My sister Valerie and I were talking about children this morning. I told her that some readers have told me privately it was uncool to post some of the things I have been posting lately. I've been posting videos of different child singers. They sing, laugh and play! I really didn't know why, as of late, I have been posting these children a lot. But now I do. I want happy, playful, hopeful, creative, intelligent children around me. Kids that shine. Kids that are creative and that haven't come to believe that they aren't. And I want to be like them. My sister Valerie, when I told her this morning that some were criticizing me, said to me, "Oh who cares what people say!," and besides, God loves children so!" She paused for a moment and added, "He wants us to be like them!" This verse instantly flashed through my mind: Jesus said, truly, I say to you, If you do not turn and become like little children...

Anyway, my post today is about child singer Connie Talbot (age 7). The post is called "I'm still here" if you want to check it out. Just click on the link to my blog address below. You'll be able to see and hear Little Connie!

Gotta run, perhaps John is back with the book! Yep.

krissy knox :)
my main blog: Sometimes I Think
Follow me on Twitter: www.twitter.com/iamkrissy

Posted by: krissy knox at January 7, 2009 4:16 PM

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